Marin Individual, Couples, Premarital, Marriage Therapy and Counseling

Lisa Brookes Kift is a licensed therapist (MFT), doing individual therapy and couples counseling in downtown Larkspur, Marin County, CA, just north of San Francisco.  Some of Lisa’s areas of special interest include the following: couples communication anxiety infidelity trauma premarital… Read more »

Your Early Relationship with Mom and Your Intimate Adult Relationships

“The ability to trust, love, and resolve conflict with loved ones starts in childhood — way earlier than you may think. That is one message of a review of the literature in Current Directions in Psychological Science, a journal published by… Read more »

Ask Lisa: Better to be alone or feel alone together?

My partner & I have been living together for 14 years.  I ignored earlier instincts (red flags) and continued anyway.  Suggested we go for counseling to deal with anger, family of origin issues), & to learn/practice better communication. Counseling refused several… Read more »

The Myth of the Fairy Tale Relationship

“It just didn’t turn out to be the fairy tale I had so badly hoped for,” taken from Kim Kardashian’s “letter to her fans” regarding filing for divorce 72 days after her wedding. Relationships are not made for TV scripts;… Read more »

How to Repair Your Marriage

You are not alone if you feel disconnected from your spouse.  You are also not alone if your marriage is “OK” but there’s a bit of a gap that has the potential to grow if unattended.  Marriages require work to keep… Read more »

Whether Single or in a Relationship, Flirting is Good For Your Health

If you are single or in a relationship, it is paramount that you know how to flirt. It not only improves your relationships with others, it also improves your physical and emotional health. A prerequisite to the following lessons is having… Read more »

Ask Lisa: My boyfriend is spending less time with me

My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 17 and now we are 28, off and on at first but steady and living with each other for the past 6 years. We’ve had a great relationship and are very close… Read more »

How to Encourage Your Partner to Take Better Care of Themselves While Strengthening Your Relationship

You are on the fit track, eating healthy, and working on being the best you can be. You would love nothing more than to have your partner on this journey with you. In fact, when they aren’t on the same… Read more »

Quick Tip to Assess the Quality of Your Relationship Right Now

Many people are clear about what a “healthy relationship” looks and feels like.  But some are not, particularly if they’ve had a history that hasn’t demonstrated this for them to see.  If you fall into the “not knowing” category, there are many routes you can… Read more »

Relationship Problems? Try Dwelling on the Positive

Do you and your partner ever dwell on the positive in your relationship?  Maybe you should. It’s really easy to dwell on the negative in our personal lives and relationships.  The brain is wired to have a negativity bias.  In other… Read more »