Time to Rethink What Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs

Esther Perel has an unmistakeable presence.  The Belgian speaker, therapist, author and TedX sweetheart has been challenging us all, including therapists like myself, to rethink our paradigms around romantic relationships and infidelity. Recently at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in DC,… Read more »

Study: Top 3 Things Couples Fight About and Other Things You Should Know

Fresh off attending the 2018 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I had the opportunity to attend a workshop with John Gottman.  Dr. Gottman is a dominant figure on the relationship research and couples therapy scene since the mid 80’s,… Read more »

Dating after Divorce and Self-Care

Psychologist Richard Nicastro encourages a focus on YOU when dating after divorce.  He shares tips while keeping a focus on self-care. The great novelist W. Somerset Maugham said, “There are 3 rules for writing the novel. The problem is, nobody… Read more »

Simple Valentine

After Valentines Day, people often ask each other, “What did you do?” eyes wide with anticipation to hear the big reveal… “We spent a weekend away in the wine country.” “He bought me a sparkly, expensive necklace.” “We went to… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: Lack of Emotional Safety in Relationship

I read your article on “emotional safety” and it seems to be lacking in my recent relationship. I’d been dating a guy on and off for about a year. I’ve been trying to share this concept with him, but it… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: I’m in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage

I started dating my husband when I was 19 and he was 36. I came from a broken home where there was extreme violence and alcohol abuse, so I did not want to have anything to do with alcohol. He told… Read more »

Dating Fatigue: Take a Break for a More Positive Mindset

Clinton Power, Australian relationship counselor, looks at the benefits of taking a break from dating to reset your thinking, be self-reflective and ultimately be more open and ready for the kind of relationship you really want when you get back… Read more »

#TheToolbox Best of Emotional and Relationship Health 2017

2017 is slipping by and throughout this year, I continue to enjoy tending to my online labor of love, LoveAndLifeToolbox.com.  This is my annual end of the year celebration of the “best of”  my emotional and relationship health content over… Read more »

Finding Your Healthy Self to Find a Healthy Other

Relationship Coach, Jenna Ponaman, shares her personal story of finding self-acceptance and authenticity within herself to be open (and finding), the best possible partner for her. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you try so hard to… Read more »

Lots of Friends Yet Still Feel Lonely?

Loneliness is an epidemic and research has shown that it can literally make you sick.  This is a topic close to my heart professionally as my therapy practice continues to be dotted with clients who don’t feel connected to others… Read more »