The stigma around seeing a therapist is not nearly what it once was. In fact, many understand that going to therapy doesn’t mean there is “something wrong with you” but rather there are things you may...
Author - Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Bad Relationships on Repeat? Break Your Unhealthy Patterns
Criticism. Sarcasm. Disrespect. Repeat. These are just some of the relationship behaviors that some when reoccurring can leave you wondering, “How did I get here again?” The relationship may have even...
Combat Loneliness by Learning to Connect
We humans have an innate, deep need for connection with each other. It can feel great when we connect but if not, it can lead to loneliness. Inauthenticity and emotional availability are just a few of the ways people...
How to Be More Emotionally Available, and Why
Being emotionally available is the cornerstone of healthy relationships. It allows for openness, communication, intimacy and depth. Then why is being emotionally unavailable such a common problem for people? Because...
I’m a Therapist and Omicron is Fraying Me Around the Edges
I would like to acknowledge aloud that I am tired. I feel like I’m in a rapid-fire Covid dodgeball game and the balls are coming fast, especially since school started again last week. The cycle of potential...
Have Compassion for Those with Covid Anxiety
I was struck by an opinion piece by CNN’s Chris Cillizza about his Covid anxiety and why it’s spiking now. He talked about how his personal battles with health anxiety and compulsive behavior predating this...
Be Grateful for You
Thanksgiving is a time of reflection and pause around gratitude, sharing this with the people closest to you. Families come together from near and far to share meals, games, conversation, walks and other activities. ...
The Often-Overlooked Glue of Long-Term Relationships
Most people know what it feels like in the beginning of a relationship when both of your brains are busy bringing you together, as in the “honeymoon phase.” Romantic love produces high levels of dopamine...
Why Your Therapist Will Not Likely Give You Advice
Therapy is not magic nor is it a process where a therapist is able to “fix” you. I sometimes joke with clients that if I had a magic wand under my chair (or on my desk in times of tele-therapy), I could...
Pandemic: Why Not Yet Leaping Out Into the World Isn’t Weird
We’re not out of this thing yet as evidenced by the tragic surges unfolding in Covid hot spots in the world. But we sure are miles ahead of the dark days and unknowns of the past year. There are many reasons to...