Being a therapist in private practice working with individuals and couples, I see a vast array of issues that people bring. It’s understandable that many hope to solve the problems as soon as possible...
Author - Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Ask Lisa: Better to be alone or feel alone together?
My partner & I have been living together for 14 years. I ignored earlier instincts (red flags) and continued anyway. Suggested we go for counseling to deal with anger, family of origin issues), & to...
Premarital Couples: Invest in Your Marriage as you do in Your Wedding Day
Our society puts a lot of focus on the wedding day. Many couples spend countless hours on wedding preparation considering where they will marry, who will come, what color the flowers will be, tasting food...
Happiness: Questions to Ask Yourself…and a Caveat
Happiness is a popular topic these days. We now know that much of your happiness is in your control (40% says Sonja Luyubomirsky, PhD) which empowers you to make real changes impacting your emotional and relationship...
10 Ways to Betray Your Relationship (Other Than Infidelity)
Intimate relationships thrive on emotional safety. The more each partner feels they can turn towards each other, seek shelter in each other from the storms of life, the greater the security. When I work with couples...
Disempower Your Shame
Shame is sneaky. It lurks in the shadows. Shame is secretive and powerful in it’s ability to impact the way you feel about yourself at the very core. It creeps into your sense of self and can negatively impact...
A Cheat Sheet for Happiness
If you asked any person on the street whether they would like to be happy, it’s safe to bet that the vast majority would say yes. If you asked any person on the street IF they were happy, this is where things...
Are You in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?
Do you feel like you have to “walk on eggshells” around your partner? Are you afraid a lot of the time in your relationship? Is your self esteem being slowly eroded? It’s possible you’re in an emotionally abusive...
Ask Lisa: Something feels off in my relationship
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and since May he has gotten a new job position with a lot of responsibility. He now has a female co worker who he calls his partner. He spends a lot of time with her...
Relationship Roadblocks? Consider Your Attachment Style
If you are one of the many out there who finds yourself in repetitive patterns of unhealthy relationships, perhaps you might benefit from identifying your attachment style – which not only could answer some fundamental...
