How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff
If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role. “I have a role?” you ask. Yes, you just might. The baggage you’ve been carrying could… Read more »
3 Roadblocks to Forgiveness in Relationships
Dr. Richard Nicastro, PsyD, explores things that complicate forgiveness in relationships. Sometimes the part of us that feels truly indignant remains rigid. Can you get to a place where letting it go is possible? —– Imagine this scenario: Your spouse/partner… Read more »
Rise in Anxiety and/or Depression in our Youth, What Gives?
According to a recent study in the Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics, more than 1 in 20 US children and teens (ages 6 to 17 years old) have anxiety or depression. Approximately 2.6 million American children and adolescents had diagnosed… Read more »
Time to Rethink What Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs
Esther Perel has an unmistakeable presence. The Belgian speaker, therapist, author and TedX sweetheart has been challenging us all, including therapists like myself, to rethink our paradigms around romantic relationships and infidelity. Recently at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in DC,… Read more »
Marriage / Relationships
Study: Top 3 Things Couples Fight About and Other Things You Should Know
Fresh off attending the 2018 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I had the opportunity to attend a workshop with John Gottman. Dr. Gottman is a dominant figure on the relationship research and couples therapy scene since the mid 80’s,… Read more »
Dating after Divorce and Self-Care
Psychologist Richard Nicastro encourages a focus on YOU when dating after divorce. He shares tips while keeping a focus on self-care. The great novelist W. Somerset Maugham said, “There are 3 rules for writing the novel. The problem is, nobody… Read more »
Simple Valentine
After Valentines Day, people often ask each other, “What did you do?” eyes wide with anticipation to hear the big reveal… “We spent a weekend away in the wine country.” “He bought me a sparkly, expensive necklace.” “We went to… Read more »
Emotional Health
What Can You Do When You’re Shaken?
Rick Hanson, PhD, looks at the need we all have to find a place to stand firmly; whether it be physically, psychologically or spiritually. He offers ways to find stability when you feel shaken or out of control. I’ve been to… Read more »
Avoid the Expectation Trap
Craig Harper, a coach and motivational speaker in Australia, explores the many ways you can be let down by others and how changing your expectations can change your reality. Do people let you down? Have they let you down in… Read more »
#TheToolbox Best of Emotional and Relationship Health 2017
2017 is slipping by and throughout this year, I continue to enjoy tending to my online labor of love, LoveAndLifeToolbox.com. This is my annual end of the year celebration of the “best of” my emotional and relationship health content over… Read more »
Therapy
3 Mistakes Couples Make in Relationship Counseling
Couples counseling can be a helpful tool for a myriad of issues, from significant disconnection and resentment to a desire to fill your toolbox with tools to manage things that might come up later. Communication skills, conflict management, listening skills… Read more »
Premarital Couples: Invest in Your Marriage as you do in Your Wedding Day
Our society puts a lot of focus on the wedding day. Many couples spend countless hours on wedding preparation considering where they will marry, who will come, what color the flowers will be, tasting food, contemplating wedding favors and other… Read more »
How to Make Couples Therapy Work for You
You are your partner are struggling. Perhaps your disconnection is significant or maybe you feel committed to the relationship but see red flags that need addressing. Couples therapy is not only for couples who can’t figure out how to make… Read more »
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About Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
http://LoveAndLifeToolbox.comLisa Brookes Kift, MFT is the creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com with tools for emotional and relationship health and is the author of Therapy-At-Home Workbooks® for individuals and couples. She is a frequent consultant for the media having appeared in CNN.com, HuffingtonPost.com, MensHealth.com and others. Lisa has a private practice in Marin County, CA and offers online therapy to residents of California.
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