It’s been seven months since living in our coronavirus reality. Activities and normal ways of living are modified or all together blocked for many of us as we continue to ride our personal waves of...
Aude Castagna, MFT explores the reasons people can be compulsive pleasers and caretakers, even in the face of toxic behaviors and to their own detriment. She offers some guidance around how to start the...
“Gaslighting” is a great word because it so vividly describes the feeling one has when on the receiving end. It’s as if there is a match repeatedly being struck under you but then blown out...
This is a very hard time; our emotional health and physical well-being are being challenged in pandemic life. We are trying to figure out how to be safe, care for our children and for many, assure even basic survival...
Richard Nicastro, Phd, takes a closer look at some of the obstacles to forgiveness in intimate relationships. Imagine this scenario: Your spouse/partner has wounded you in some way. S/he has now expressed what feels...
Summer is here. The warm weather beckons. He wants to get together with a big group for a BBQ in someone’s yard and not worry about wearing masks or if the party spills inside. She feels strongly about...
Elise Hu, NPR correspondent and Millennial (the “loneliest generation”), shares her need for connection during the global pandemic. In her worry and loneliness she wrote letters to 50 strangers across...
“Why did I do it? I love my wife, I have so much to lose, why?!” Many of the men I work with are seeking answers to questions like the one above. They’ve acted in ways they later regret and, at some point, they had to...
The coronavirus pandemic and ensuing isolation people find themselves in will put many relationships to the test. In normal circumstances, time spent in “togetherness” is a goal and hallmark of a healthy...
Many are undulating through waves of worry and sadness as we experience the effects of COVID-19. Our lives look very different from how they did 6 months ago. Dr. Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at the connection between...
For those who feel swamped with bad news. Rick Hanson, PhD discusses the brain’s negativity bias and the importance of being able to recognize the positive things too. Why find the good news? “Tell the truth.”...
I recently was invited to partner with Samantha Foster, President of the nonprofit organzation, Rethink Mental Health Incorporated. She was looking for mental health advocates to help support her in her mission to...
If you would have been asked a year ago if you were concerned about a global pandemic grinding life as you know it to a halt, you probably would have raised your eyebrows and laughed. There is no doubt that the world...
We’re suffering a collective trauma, but members of the Black community, who are already inherently raised alongside that trauma, are getting hit the hardest. While mental health resources have historically been out of...
Christine Fallabel, living with type 1 diabetes since 2000, shares her thoughts about managing this chronic disease during the pandemic, especially with concerns around it making her higher risk with COVID-19. These...
Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.” Have you heard the one about the confused man...
As much as worry and fear can bring us to our knees sometimes, much of it is probably not really about life changing, catastrophic things but rather…the small stuff. It’s not to say that life doesn’t...
The term, “family of origin work” may be familiar to some but not everyone. It’s important to have an understanding of it, especially when it comes to having an understanding of how you function...
I’m 36, and I’ve been dating a 29 year old man for a year and a half now. There are a lot of nuances that I don’t have time to recount, but my basic problem is this. My boyfriend has a female best...
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Richard Nicastro, PhD
Rick Hanson, PhD
Amy Eden
