The emotional backlash of an affair on the partner who was cheated on can be earth shattering. Whether there was suspicion of this happening leading up to the discovery or not, it all leads to a spectrum of...
Emily and Lindsay are two sisters living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Anxiety. Through their life experiences, therapy and a little inspiration, they turned their mental health challenges into a...
The stigma around seeing a therapist is not nearly what it once was. In fact, many understand that going to therapy doesn’t mean there is “something wrong with you” but rather there are...
Criticism. Sarcasm. Disrespect. Repeat. These are just some of the relationship behaviors that some when reoccurring can leave you wondering, “How did I get here again?” The relationship may have even...
We humans have an innate, deep need for connection with each other. It can feel great when we connect but if not, it can lead to loneliness. Inauthenticity and emotional availability are just a few of the ways people...
Being emotionally available is the cornerstone of healthy relationships. It allows for openness, communication, intimacy and depth. Then why is being emotionally unavailable such a common problem for people? Because...
Most people know what it feels like in the beginning of a relationship when both of your brains are busy bringing you together, as in the “honeymoon phase.” Romantic love produces high levels of dopamine...
Alysha Jeney, LMFT, looks at a lack of sex in relationships, the layered cake metaphor and what sex positivity looks like. A lack of sex in relationships can vary from trust issues to health related dysfunction...
Richard Nicastro, PhD, through the eyes of “Nina,” explores what it can look like when protective love turns into hopeless frustration. — If you’re a woman in a committed relationship, I’d like you...
Self-blame, negative self-talk, endless pummelling by the inner critic and the relentless self-shaming that can hijack our minds and torture our hearts can effectively poison our trust in ourselves to cope and derail...
I would like to acknowledge aloud that I am tired. I feel like I’m in a rapid-fire Covid dodgeball game and the balls are coming fast, especially since school started again last week. The cycle of potential...
I was struck by an opinion piece by CNN’s Chris Cillizza about his Covid anxiety and why it’s spiking now. He talked about how his personal battles with health anxiety and compulsive behavior predating this...
Thanksgiving is a time of reflection and pause around gratitude, sharing this with the people closest to you. Families come together from near and far to share meals, games, conversation, walks and other activities. ...
Therapy is not magic nor is it a process where a therapist is able to “fix” you. I sometimes joke with clients that if I had a magic wand under my chair (or on my desk in times of tele-therapy), I could...
Linda Graham, MFT looks at the benefit of recalling missed opportunities for kindness. Active imagination revisioning can rewire the brain when an opportunity to be kind was missed. Most of us want to be kind, to...
Ouch. You suffered a painful breakup and have been mourning the loss of what you thought would be and the heartfelt crush of an ego bruise. Like for many others, it can hurt! If you’ve lost someone who you felt...
Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.” Have you heard the one about the confused man...
As much as worry and fear can bring us to our knees sometimes, much of what people get challenged by are not really about life changing, catastrophic events but rather things we actually have no control over. Many...
You may or may not be familiar with the term “family of origin” as it relates to therapy. When it comes to understanding how you function emotionally and/or in your relationships, it’s an important...
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Richard Nicastro, PhD
Linda Graham, MFT
Amy Eden