The problem of feeling unlovable is a deep and complex issue for many people, often for those you would never suspect have a poor sense of self in how well they hide it. There are also those who behave in ways who...
Category - Family of Origin
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Family of Origin Work: Is it Time to Start Digging?
Being a therapist in private practice working with individuals and couples, I see a vast array of issues that people bring. It’s understandable that many hope to solve the problems as soon as possible...
Disempower Your Shame
Shame is sneaky. It lurks in the shadows. Shame is secretive and powerful in it’s ability to impact the way you feel about yourself at the very core. It creeps into your sense of self and can negatively impact...
Love Your Inner Child
Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the power of your inner child to shape your adult self-concept. If you carry wounds from early in life, he offers ways to “love your inner child” to move towards healing. As long...
Rick Hanson, PhD
Is Your Inner Child Driving the Bus?
In some photos of myself as a young child I looked sad. As I stare into my own eyes in some of the pictures from back then I see melancholy and pensiveness. Distance. Ambivalence. A little girl inside her own head...
Family of Origin Work: How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles
In Family of Origin Work: Is it Time to Start Digging?, I looked at possible reasons for looking more closely at what might be an unhealthy root system underneath you. Sometimes our earlier experiences create...
Emotional Health: Preparing for Deeper Work
If your self-awareness has been signaling that you are blocked in your present as a result of experiences in the past and you are ready to get to work on this, read on. If it’s with a therapist, there is a built...
The Past and Your Emotional Health
Your past is connected to your present and future. Emotional health is a broad term but I see it as an overall sense of internal peace, emotional flexibility, openness, absence of shame and felt happiness. Others may...
Clear Emotional Leftovers: Rewire Your Brain for a Healthier Mind
Neuropsychologist and writer, Marsha Lucas, PhD compares emotional leftovers to leftovers in your fridge. Not only are the old and messy but tend to reinforce negative states like FEELING UNLOVABLE or even your SELF...
Marsha Lucas, PhD
Who Says Our Dysfunctional Parents Did the Best They Could?
You all know this phrase. It makes me want to scream whenever I hear it, these days at least: They did the best they could. I just asked my spouse what he thought of the term, what it really means, and he said, “That...
Amy Eden