It’s a common assumption that once we move out, build a career, or start our own families, we have finally “grown up” and left the past behind. Yet, for many, an unexpected comment from a partner or a...
Category - Difficult Emotions
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Why You Feel Unlovable: A Guide to Healing
Feeling unlovable is one of the most isolating and painful emotional experiences. It’s a quiet, persistent voice that tells you that you are fundamentally flawed and unworthy of affection, belonging, or love. This...
What to Do if You Worry Too Much
Worry is a normal emotion that can serve you, signaling there is something that needs your attention. But being worried so frequently that it becomes a constant stress impacting you emotionally, relationally and/or...
Managing Stress: The Power of Mindfulness and Gratitude
Key Takeaways: Mindful Observation: Stress responses are observed with compassionate awareness, creating space for choice rather than reaction. Gratitude Amplification: Cultivating gratitude strengthens positive neural...
10 Self-Empowering Tips to Handle Post-Election Overwhelm
Refresh your self-care list. What is soothing and brings you joy? Spend time in nature. The sun, the clouds, the fog and all remain gloriously present. Create a web of love, seeking and providing support from/for...
Navigating the Political Storm: How to Manage Election Anxiety
Elections have been shown to be a tumultuous time, particularly as of late, stirring up intense emotions. As a therapist, I can attest to this personally, with the last cycle in particular triggering a surge in my...
Break Free from Shame in the Bedroom
Shame, a painful emotion rooted in feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, can cast a long shadow over our sexual lives if it gets entangled in sexuality. The disgust or humiliation directed at the self can have a...
The Power of Hope: Nurturing Emotional Health
This is one of my favorite topics in my therapy practice, where hope can be used to generate an often needed flame from an ember; for individuals seeking personal growth or in a relationship where two people are looking...
The War is Taking a Psychological Toll on All of Us
The Israel-Hamas war is unleashing a primal, collective emotional response around the world. Many are feeling direct threat. And so many others are cycling through shock, fear, rage, sadness and disbelief, depending...
Addressing the Problem of Feeling Unlovable
The problem of feeling unlovable is a deep and complex issue for many people, often for those you would never suspect have a poor sense of self in how well they hide it. There are also those who behave in ways who...
