If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role. “I have a role?” you ask. Yes, you just might. The...
Category - Relationship Problems
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
3 Roadblocks to Forgiveness in Relationships
Dr. Richard Nicastro, PsyD, explores things that complicate forgiveness in relationships. Sometimes the part of us that feels truly indignant remains rigid. Can you get to a place where letting it go is possible...
Richard Nicastro, PhD
Time to Rethink What You Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs
Esther Perel has an unmistakeable presence. The Belgian speaker, therapist, author and TedX sweetheart has been challenging us all, including therapists like myself, to rethink our paradigms around romantic...
Study: Top 3 Things Couples Fight About and Other Things You Should Know
Fresh off attending the 2018 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I had the opportunity to attend a workshop with John Gottman. Dr. Gottman is a dominant figure on the relationship research and couples...
Ask Lisa: Lack of Emotional Safety in My Relationship
I read your article on “emotional safety” and it seems to be lacking in my recent relationship. I’d been dating a guy on and off for about a year. I’ve been trying to share this concept with him...
Ask Lisa: I’m in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage
I started dating my husband when I was 19 and he was 36. I came from a broken home where there was extreme violence and alcohol abuse, so I did not want to have anything to do with alcohol. He told me that he was only a...
Does Your Relationship Have a Strong Negativity Bias?
A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias. The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red...
The Emotional Crisis of an Affair and How to Heal
Dr. Richard Nicastro, PhD, explores the challenging work of post-affair recovery. The trust and hope required for healing to occur in the aftermath can be challenging to find in the transitional period for both...
Removing Yourself from the Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor Triangle
Linda Graham, MFT and author of Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, looks at the dysfunctional social dynamic of the victim, rescuer and persecutor triangle. Stephen Karpman, M.D...
Linda Graham, MFT
The Under the Radar Relationship Killer
Researchers are doing a great job raising awareness about harmful things couples say and do in a relationship. For example, we now know from the work of Dr. John Gottman that there are four communication patterns which...
