Shame, Fear and the Power of Truth

Motivational speaker, author, producer and talk show host, Kirsty Spraggon of reached out to me to watch and potentially share a video about her “deepest work around stigma, shame and secrets.”  Being passionate about these topics and a therapist with a focus on family of origin work helping people to break free from the grip of these forces, I’m glad I did.

I was deeply moved by her message about how shame had blocked her, created a sense of unworthiness, how her personal secret was “running the show” for much of her life.  It created a deep divide between her outward persona and authentic self.  She talked about how the first step was to be honest about her fears and how they were driving her.

Trauma, depression, addiction, abuse, anxiety are just a few of the conditions notoriously steeped in stigma, shame and yes…secrets.  Her journey towards confronting her own secret in an extremely public forum left me transfixed.  I was humbled by her bravery.

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?


“You need to become fear’s BFF.”

– Kirsty Spraggon

And because life has a way of reinforcing the lessons it really wants you to soak in, literally the day after being introduced to Kirsty’s journey I came across Garrett Grab.  He struggled with a secret for years, his “pre-teens to young adulthood life didn’t make any sense.”

How might shining a light on your secret set you free?

“Speaking about what happened gave me a 2nd chance and a life I was destined to live.”

– Garrett Grab

Don’t ever underestimate the power of shame.  But remember that shame loses it’s power when light is shined upon it.  Are there secrets in your life that have kept you from being your authentic self or block you from the peace and happiness you deserve?

Perhaps it’s time to look into that.

If there are no trusted friends or family available to help you begin this journey, perhaps a therapist can.  Like Garrett says in his piece, having support is a must.