Ask Lisa: I’m in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage

I started dating my husband when I was 19 and he was 36. I came from a broken home where there was extreme violence and alcohol abuse, so I did not want to have anything to do with alcohol. He told… Read more »

Dating Fatigue: Take a Break for a More Positive Mindset

Clinton Power, Australian relationship counselor, looks at the benefits of taking a break from dating to reset your thinking, be self-reflective and ultimately be more open and ready for the kind of relationship you really want when you get back… Read more »

3 Mistakes Couples Make in Relationship Counseling

Couples counseling can be a helpful tool for a myriad of issues, from significant disconnection and resentment to a desire to fill your toolbox with tools to manage things that might come up later.  Communication skills, conflict management, listening skills… Read more »

#TheToolbox Best of Emotional and Relationship Health 2017

2017 is slipping by and throughout this year, I continue to enjoy tending to my online labor of love, LoveAndLifeToolbox.com.  This is my annual end of the year celebration of the “best of”  my emotional and relationship health content over… Read more »

Finding Your Healthy Self to Find a Healthy Other

Relationship Coach, Jenna Ponaman, shares her personal story of finding self-acceptance and authenticity within herself to be open (and finding), the best possible partner for her. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you try so hard to… Read more »

Lots of Friends Yet Still Feel Lonely?

Loneliness is an epidemic and research has shown that it can literally make you sick.  This is a topic close to my heart professionally as my therapy practice continues to be dotted with clients who don’t feel connected to others… Read more »

The Ebb and Flow of Marriage

Marriages change over time.  Couples who are able to navigate the ebb and flow of their relationships have an advantage in doing better over the long haul. Consider for a moment how much you’ve changed in your maturity, likes, dislikes,… Read more »

Does Your Relationship Have a Strong Negativity Bias?

A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias.  The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red.  In the worst… Read more »

The Emotional Crisis of an Affair and How to Heal

Dr. Richard Nicastro, PhD, explores the challenging work of post-affair recovery.  The  trust and hope required for healing to occur in the aftermath can be challenging to find in the transitional period for both partners. Change in a relationship is… Read more »

Ask Lisa: My boyfriend’s job is more important than me

I came across one of the questions which I could relate to my life while I was searching for – what to do if you have a busy partner. Actually I am in a relationship with a guy since 4… Read more »