Premarital Couples: Invest in Your Marriage as you do in Your Wedding Day

Our society puts a lot of focus on the wedding day.  Many couples spend countless hours on wedding preparation considering where they will marry, who will come, what color the flowers will be, tasting food, contemplating wedding favors and other… Read more »

5 Soothing Tips for Making Up after Conflict

Not many people actually enjoy conflict. Whether it’s a fight with a friend, a rift with a co-worker, or a blowout with your significant other, conflict hurts. But the alternative is lingering grudges, endless speculation, suffering, and sometimes divorce. Conflicts… Read more »

Removing Yourself from the Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor Triangle

Linda Graham, MFT and author of Bouncing Back:  Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, looks at the dysfunctional social dynamic of the victim, rescuer and persecutor triangle. Stephen Karpman, M.D., developed his “drama triangle” – victim, rescuer, persecutor… Read more »

How to Make Couples Therapy Work for You

You are your partner are struggling.  Perhaps your disconnection is significant or maybe you feel committed to the relationship but see red flags that need addressing.  Couples therapy is not only for couples who can’t figure out how to make… Read more »

Ask Lisa: I’m now sober but my girlfriend has unresolved issues

I am currently in a long distant relationship for a little over a year. We have been through numerous ups and downs. Our biggest issue being I used to drink too much and at the beginning when she asked me… Read more »

5 Steps to Create Positive Change in Your Relationship

You love your partner.  And sometimes you make mistakes that hurt your partner.  Some of those mistakes might be from patterns similar to what was modeled to you in your family of origin and the mistakes are inadvertent.  Or sometimes you are simply… Read more »

Ask Lisa: My boyfriend has alcohol and mental health issues

My boyfriend and I are together for 2 years . Since we moved together 15 months ago we started to argue and it was over drinking . He gets aggressive and fights with random people, it has happened around 7… Read more »

The Under the Radar Relationship Killer

Researchers are doing a great job raising awareness about harmful things couples say and do in a relationship. For example, we now know from the work of Dr. John Gottman that there are four communication patterns which predict whether a… Read more »

Got Resentment in Your Relationship? Learn to Let it Go

Claire Hatch, LCSW looks at resentment in relationships and ways to begin the process of sweeping it away by seeing interactions with your partner differently. “He thinks I’m stupid and he has to school me!” Lena said. “Sometimes I just have… Read more »

The Ultimate Romance Win

Depression sneaks up on a woman and seeps into a marriage.  This is a true story told from her husband’s perspective.  He shares the journey and one of their early victories as she started to get the upper hand on her… Read more »