4 “Must-Knows” for a Happy, Healthy and Connected Relationship

After attending the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I came away with some very important and research supported “tidbits” from some of the top thinkers in couples and relationship health.  If you are currently in a relationship, consider the following list and… Read more »

Ask the Lisa: My boyfriend is having an improper relationship with his therapist

My boyfriend has seen a therapist over the past year for help dealing with some problems that he has has relating to his children.  Recently he has disclosed to me that his therapist called him at his home and requested that he… Read more »

Good Relationships are Like Making Movies

As a therapist and an ex-Hollywood Assistant Director, I have unique insight into both careers.  Throughout my twenties I ran around with youthful exuberance on many a film and television set, walkie-talkie strapped to my belt and headset perched atop my baseball cap… Read more »

Happy Marriage: An Often Overlooked Way of Connecting Couples

There are so many ways for couples to connect and nurture their marriages.  I’ve written a lot about how to create emotional safety, adult attachment, how to avoid or work through a build up of resentment, build empathy, communicate effectively… Read more »

Valentines Day: 8 Simple Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Cared For

With Valentines Day approaching, many couples are considering ways to demonstrate their love and affection for each other.  What meaning do you attach to Valentines Day?  What are your expectations?  I subscribe to the notion that it’s less about “quantity”… Read more »

Ask Lisa: My boyfriend feels he’s not getting enough space

I had a question about relationships and spending time together. When my boyfriend gets home from work it is usually around like 7-8 and I usually cook dinner then we just watch tv.  We don’t really interact.  He complains that… Read more »

Staying Put after a Lifetime of Abandonment and Grand Exits

First you’re abandoned, then you live with an urge to flee. I have spent my entire life anxiously ready for things to fall apart.  My shoulders are never completely without tension, same for my eyes in their sockets.  There’s always… Read more »

And Baby Makes…a Disconnected Relationship?

Everyone knows that as wonderful as having children is – it changes everything.  In particular, the marriage or relationship from which the kids are born can take a significant hit.  According to a study by the University of Denver, a whopping 90% of parents report… Read more »

3 Tools for Your Marriage Toolbox

Marriage should not be easy.  Holding this belief system can put undue stress on married couples whothen also might be more inclined to give up when times get rough. The good news is that most people are willing to put… Read more »

Have You Watered Your Relationship Garden?

As many of us prepare to gather our most important relationships together to celebrate Thanksgiving, I’d like to share with you a few thoughts on creating the best possible relationship between you and your partner.  For those of you who are currently… Read more »