Give Your Marriage the Gift of Reconnection Over the Holidays

Happy Holidays from! 

It’s no secret that a happy marriage or long term relationship can be the cornerstone of your life, the foundation in which you build a family, aspire to your goals and dreams and have a port in the storm of life in which to find comfort.  We are born wired to connect to others and intimate relationships are one of the most rewarding connections adults can have.

According to Melanie Greenberg, PhD, “Satisfying relationships not only make us happy, they also influence our long-term health as much as getting enough sleep, eating healthy, and not smoking. Many research studies have shown that satisfying relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life.”

As you head into the holidays, take a quick moment to assess your primary relationship.  How does it feel?  Safe?  Cozy?  Loving? Peaceful?  We all aspire to this.  But sometimes attaining these supreme states of intimate being are challenging and yes, require a bit of work.  After all, long term relationships move with the flow of life and what’s going on for each partner, individually.  Consider your marriage or LTR a living, breathing thing in and of itself which requires TLC and nurturing.

If after your quick gut check around your relationship, you’re left feeling like you and your partner are disconnected, far away from each other, struggling to communicate or have lost the sense of collaboration you once had, perhaps it’s time to give it some attention.

The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples provides an opportunity for you and your spouse to benefit from learning the basics of strong, connected marriages/LTR’s no matter how long you’ve been together.  If disconnection is an issue for you, it can be a helpful tool to get you back on track together.

As a therapist who has worked for many years with couples, I’ve helped people understand the origins of their issues, address problems with emotional safety , teach more productive communications skills and remind them of why they came together in the first place!  All of this and more is in my workbook, originally created to recreate what I teach in session via written word.  However, some couples will need more.

If you and your partner are having severe problems, where hostility, negativity, defensiveness and criticism have become the norm, please seek counseling so that someone trained in relationship dynamics can be in front of you to help.

Best to you and yours,

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT and Creator of

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT is the creator of with emotional and relationship health articles, guides, courses and other tools for individuals and couples. She is a frequent consultant for the media having appeared in,, and others. Lisa has a private practice in Marin County, CA and offers Emotional Health and Relationship Consultations via email, phone or video conference.

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