What is Family of Origin Work?

Therapists probably have slightly different interpretations of what family of origin work and the process is. Here is my definition: “Family of origin work is getting unstuck emotionally and/or in your relationships in the present, by healing the family or… Read more »

Mitigate the Stress Response with a Hand on Your Heart

Linda Graham, MFT and author of Bouncing Back:  Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, shares a highly effective stress relieving exercise that encourages the release of oxytocin, the brain’s antidote to the stress hormone, cortisol. Barbara Fredrickson, a pioneering… Read more »

Learning to Cope, Living with Hope….Life with BPD

This is a follow up to Borderline Personality Disorder: A Survivor’s Story, written by Amy Allison for LoveAndLifeToolbox.com in 2009.   Amy shares how things been since that time; challenges, triumphs and her ongoing personal work. I strongly encourage you to… Read more »

Is Your Inner Child Driving the Bus?

In some photos of myself as a young child I looked sad.  As I stare into my own eyes in some of the pictures from back then I see melancholy and pensiveness.  Distance.  Ambivalence.  A little girl inside her own head…. Read more »

I Tried to Prove Myself to the World

Indhira Rojas is the founder of Anxy, a new magazine that de-stigmatizes emotional struggles and normalizes the fears we all have.  She shares the story behind starting Anxy, when she realized her feelings of worthlessness were driving her into the ground…. Read more »

Loneliness Impacts Emotional, Relational and Physical Health

An excellent piece found on PsychCentral.com highlights the pervasive problems associated with loneliness.  The issue of feeling separated from others is rampant in life and often reflected in my therapy practice.  We all have felt loneliness at one time or… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: Steps to Heal

In Family of Origin Work:  How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles, I looked at how to understand your history and how it’s impacted you.  There are many ways people cope with challenging environments and situations.  Once you have… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles

In Family of Origin Work:  Is it Time to Start Digging?, I looked at possible reasons for looking more closely at what might be an unhealthy root system underneath you.  Sometimes our earlier experiences create obstacles to emotional and relationship… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: Is it Time to Start Digging?

Being a therapist in private practice working with individuals and couples, I see a vast array of issues that people bring.  It’s understandable that many hope to solve the problems as soon as possible.  Efficiency is always a goal for me… Read more »

One Simple Prescription for Happiness

It’s not actually realistic to boil down the elements of happiness into one element but some researchers believe that if you could, gratitude would be it. Gratitude might even be the path to a more satisfied life. It can improve… Read more »