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3 Key Questions for Your Well-Being Check Up

If you spend time with medical check ups or car tune ups, what about your emotional health?  Do you take the time to check in and really reflect upon on how you’re doing?

The holiday and New Year period is often a time for self reflection and this incredibly rich educational video offered by Rick Hanson, PhD is a great place to start.

  1. Have you ever thought about what your resting state look like?  Optimism or moodiness?
  2. How rapidly can you recover to your resting state after challenged by a stressor? Do you bounce back quickly or stay emotionally elevated or withdrawn?
  3. What is your comfort zone?  Do have a happy resting state or are you more in the “blah” zone?

In the video below, Dr. Hanson offers insights about our most important emotional and psychological needs; for safety, for satisfaction and for connection.  If you struggle with these needs being met, you will learn some good information on resources to counter the depletions.

  • Safety:  Can you calm your body?
  • Satisfaction:  Do you easily feel disappointed or at a loss?
  • Connection:  Do you feel lonely or rejected?  Or do you struggle with forgiveness?

Brain science says that even if you struggle with any or all of the above, you can “build muscles” for happiness.  If you learn to stimulate the “good stuff” you can learn to overcome negative hardwiring.  Sometimes we overreact and get caught up in vicious cycles as our negativity bias can be powerful.  In fact, he believes that many self improvement avenues don’t actually stick because of the challenge to overcome the negativity bias.  The primary way to grow resources such as resilience and gratitude is to have and internalize such experiences so they encode with lasting impact, thus truly changing the brain for the better.

Learning the skills to recognize, resource and regulate will help improve the way you relate to the world.

This video alone may give you the insights you need around your personal well-being, but if you would like to dig more deeply into this topic and what brain science has taught us, Rick Hanson has a more comprehensive “Foundations of Well-Being” program, a yearlong online lesson in how to be less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships and a sense of self worth.

Enjoy!

Learn more about Rick Hanson’s Foundation’s of Well Being program.  (Save $200 with his “Early Bird Special” if you sign up before December 10th!)

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT is the creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com with tools for emotional and relationship health and is the author of Therapy-At-Home Workbooks® for individuals and couples. She is a frequent consultant for the media having appeared in CNN.com, HuffingtonPost.com, MensHealth.com and others. Lisa has a private practice in Marin County, CA and offers online therapy to residents of California.