Are You Hard on Yourself?

Rick Hanson, PhD and author of Hardwiring Happiness, looks at the benefit of practicing forgiveness if you have a tendency to be your own worst critic.  He shares his thoughts about how to allow your “inner protector” to help you find… Read more »

My Favorite Tools to Change Your Brain

Research has shown up that because of the neuroplasticity of your brain, you have the potential to change your life by promoting happiness, trauma relief, resilience and overall peace of mind.  You no longer have to be held hostage by… Read more »

Just Breathe: Kids Talk About Difficult Emotions and Using the Breath to Relieve Stress

Much is known about the power of the breath to reduce stress.  Slow, deep breathing triggers the relaxation response that changes the physical and emotional responses to stress.  It decreases your heart rate, blood pressure and muscle tension.  Many throughout the… Read more »

The Importance of Sleep for Emotional Health, Brain and Body

Linda Graham, MFT examines ways that adequate sleep serves your emotional and physical health; the brain, nervous system, heart, mood and stress levels.  She offers ways to set up the conditions for replenishing sleep. I’ve often written about resilience in… Read more »

Shame: You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Jennifer Lehr, MFT digs deep into her personal battle with shame and secret keeping.  As a therapist, she chooses to reveal so much of herself with the hope that others will benefit.  Unmasking shame is a very effective way to strip… Read more »

2014: “The Toolbox” Best of Emotional and Relationship Health

2014 was a big year for LoveAndLifeToolbox.com after it’s redesign and relaunch at the end of 2013.  The positive feedback is much appreciated and I look forward to continuing to provide quality content and helpful tools by myself and others in the field… Read more »

Trauma: A Broken Alarm System

Trauma is often misunderstood. If you or someone you know has experienced trauma, it’s important to understand that it’s not just something that “happened.”   People who are traumatized can’t just “get over it” because it’s not only a story of… Read more »

Love Your Inner Child

Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the power of your inner child to shape your adult self-concept.  If you carry wounds from early in life, he offers ways to “love your inner child” to move towards healing. As long as you’ve lived,… Read more »

Painful Holidays: Three Challenging Situations and How to Manage Them

Holidays mean good cheer and family get togethers for many, celebrating our most important relationships, enjoying good food and each other’s companionship.  But for some, the holidays can be a struggle because of painful or challenging situations. Here are three challenging situations and how… Read more »

How to Strengthen Your Perseverance and Grit

Linda Graham, MFT examines the role of “grit” in resilience and offers an exercise to strengthen perseverance to maximize your growth mindset.   Both a friend and a client told me about this delightful 6-minute TED talk by psychologist Angela Lee… Read more »