Shame: You Are Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Jennifer Lehr, MFT digs deep into her personal battle with shame and secret keeping.  As a therapist, she chooses to reveal so much of herself with the hope that others will benefit.  Unmasking shame is a very effective way to strip… Read more »

2014: “The Toolbox” Best of Emotional and Relationship Health

2014 was a big year for LoveAndLifeToolbox.com after it’s redesign and relaunch at the end of 2013.  The positive feedback is much appreciated and I look forward to continuing to provide quality content and helpful tools by myself and others in the field… Read more »

Trauma: A Broken Alarm System

Trauma is often misunderstood. If you or someone you know has experienced trauma, it’s important to understand that it’s not just something that “happened.”   People who are traumatized can’t just “get over it” because it’s not only a story of… Read more »

Love Your Inner Child

Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the power of your inner child to shape your adult self-concept.  If you carry wounds from early in life, he offers ways to “love your inner child” to move towards healing. As long as you’ve lived,… Read more »

Painful Holidays: Three Challenging Situations and How to Manage Them

Holidays mean good cheer and family get togethers for many, celebrating our most important relationships, enjoying good food and each other’s companionship.  But for some, the holidays can be a struggle because of painful or challenging situations. Here are three challenging situations and how… Read more »

How to Strengthen Your Perseverance and Grit

Linda Graham, MFT examines the role of “grit” in resilience and offers an exercise to strengthen perseverance to maximize your growth mindset.   Both a friend and a client told me about this delightful 6-minute TED talk by psychologist Angela Lee… Read more »

Staying Calm in an Unsettled World

It seems to me the news has been particularly disturbing lately.  Whether it’s ideological groups thrusting aggressively forward with psychologically terrifying tactics, a disturbing disease stealing the lives of thousands and seeping past our borders or an unusual strain of… Read more »

Happiness: Questions to Ask Yourself…and a Caveat

Happiness is a popular topic these days.  We now know that much of your happiness is in your control (40% says Sonja Luyubomirsky, PhD in her book, The How of Happiness) which empowers you make real changes impacting your emotional and… Read more »

Avoid the Expectation Trap

Craig Harper, a coach and motivational speaker in Australia, explores the many ways you can be let down by others and  how changing your expectations can change your reality. Do people let you down? Have they let you down in… Read more »

Your Inner Kid: Fun Ways to Practice Playful Mindfulness this Summer

Most kids have it down when it comes to being in the moment.  They live for the now and get fully absorbed in their activities.  Without the burden of responsibilities they master the art of play, wonderment and mindful attention…. Read more »