Do you believe things that happened in your past can impact how you function in your relationships? If you don’t, you’re not alone. Being a therapist who works with individuals and couples, I’ve...
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff
If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role. “I have a role?” you ask. Yes, you just might. The...
10 Characteristics of Successful Relationships
People seeking couples counseling seek change to a relationship dynamic that isn’t working in some way. The problems can include poor communication, lack of emotional safety, resentment, trust violations and...
My Favorite Tools to Change Your Brain
Research has shown up that because of the neuroplasticity of your brain, you have the potential to change your life by promoting happiness, trauma relief, resilience and overall peace of mind. You no longer have to be...
Your Early Relationship with Mom and Your Intimate Adult Relationships
“The ability to trust, love, and resolve conflict with loved ones starts in childhood — way earlier than you may think. That is one message of a review of the literature in Current Directions in...
Steps to Identify Your Unhelpful Belief Systems
The core beliefs that you carry can be insidious in how they creep into your your perceptions about just about everything. Do you struggle with anger, depression, anxiety, stress or recurring relationship problems and...
The Benefits of a Secure Attachment
Your early attachment to your primary caregivers (particularly mom) is one of the important elements setting the stage for your emotional and relationship health as an adult. Your past truly does matter as the quality...
4 “Must-Knows” for a Happy, Healthy and Connected Relationship
After attending the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I came away with some very important and research supported “tidbits” from some of the top thinkers in couples and relationship health...
Thriving in Relationships Despite a Painful Past
Making love last is a concern for anybody with a relationship history that has included disappointment, pain and loss. How do we do it differently the next time around? What starts for so many as a blissful connected...
Jennifer Lehr, MFT
The Power of Behavior in Relationships
From the time we are born, relationships are one of the most important things to all of us. Consider how much infants need their parents or primary caregivers. The need to attach to others is there from birth. Our...
