People seeking couples counseling seek change to a relationship dynamic that isn’t working in some way. The problems can include poor communication, lack of emotional safety, resentment, trust violations and...
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
5 Steps to Create Positive Change in Your Relationship
You love your partner. And sometimes you make mistakes that hurt your partner. Some of those mistakes might be from patterns similar to what was modeled to you in your family of origin and the mistakes are inadvertent...
10 Ways to Betray Your Relationship (Other Than Infidelity)
Intimate relationships thrive on emotional safety. The more each partner feels they can turn towards each other, seek shelter in each other from the storms of life, the greater the security. When I work with couples...
Get Closer with Your Partner in 45 Minutes
Check out this tool to improve the connection with your partner (or friend) via Greater Good in Action. If you are seeking more closeness with anyone in your life, set aside some time together (45 minutes is the...
The Truth about Men, Love and Intimacy
“I’ve been married for over twenty years. I know I’m not perfect, but I can honestly say that I do my best to be a good husband…I care about what my wife thinks of me asa husband and father.” ~Sal “It scares me to admit...
Richard Nicastro, PhD
20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves
Richard Nicastro, PhD explores specific ways you can improve your relationship, noting that it usually doesn’t just “happen” but requires effort to be sure it gets adequate attention. Let’s face it:...
When Honesty is Not the Best Policy in Relationships
I once heard a client say with great pride that she has always been “honest” in her relationships. She told people how she felt about them and situations at hand. For her it was inauthentic or...
Study: Top 3 Things Couples Fight About and Other Things You Should Know
Fresh off attending the 2018 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I had the opportunity to attend a workshop with John Gottman. Dr. Gottman is a dominant figure on the relationship research and couples...
The Ebb and Flow of Marriage
Marriages change over time. Couples who are able to navigate the ebb and flow of their relationships have an advantage in doing better over the long haul. Consider for a moment how much you’ve changed in your...
Deconstructing Bickering in Relationships
Richard Nicastro, PhD examines why couples fight and proposes that bickering isn’t always the way it seems. Might bickering in relationships sometimes be…fun? “You missed the exit.” “Did not.” “Did too.”...
