Change the Pattern
Many people walk through their lives oblivious to their their thoughts and actions. So of course there is also a lack of connection to the consequences either. One of the most rewarding aspects of my therapy work is helping people connect the dots so that new awareness can be a beacon for change.
If you don’t know something, you don’t know something. So you certainly aren’t going to change from that point. In fact, you might have often blamed others or outside circumstances for your problems. Why does this always happen to me? If you can see you are responsible for your choices, you are better equipped to make different choices.