Love And Life Toolbox
Self-Quiz: Relationship Patterns and Your Upbringing

Self-Quiz: Relationship Patterns and Your Upbringing

Topic Progress:

Read the following statements and reflect on whether they are True or False:

—–

  • There were high levels of conflict between family members in my home.

 

  • My parent(s) were absent or abandoning in their behavior towards me.

 

  • My parent(s) were present but emotionally unavailable.

 

  • My parent(s) were abusive or highly critical.

 

  • My parent(s) were mentally ill or I suspect they were but went undiagnosed.

 

  • My parent(s) had addiction issues; alcohol, drug, food, gambling or other.

 

  • I witnessed domestic violence in my parent’s relationship.

 

  • My parents lived separate lives within the home. I don’t understand why they stayed together.

 

  • My parent(s) had very high expectations of me and I was rewarded by doing and achieving.

—–

These are some of the experiences that can lead to unhealthy ideas about relationships. They can also be at the root of a poor sense of self or self-esteem issues.

—–

Take a few minutes to use your journal to note anything that rang true for you above.  Spend adequate time noting anything else that feels relevant; memories or other thoughts.

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT is the creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com with emotional and relationship health articles, guides, courses and other tools for individuals and couples. She is a frequent consultant for the media having appeared in CNN.com, HuffingtonPost.com, MensHealth.com and others. Lisa has a private practice in Marin County, CA and offers Emotional Health and Relationship Consultations via email, phone or video conference.