The Past and Your Emotional Health

Your past is connected to your present and future.  Emotional health is a broad term but I see it as an overall sense of “alrightness,” of peace, of emotional flexibility, openness, absence of shame and felt happiness.  Others may define… Read more »

Divorced People Reflect Upon Lessons Learned About Marriage

In a longitudinal study starting with couples in their first year of marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, PhD continued to check in with the couples, even those who ultimately divorced (46%) eventually over the 25 years of the study so far. … Read more »

Marin Individual, Couples, Premarital, Marriage Therapy and Counseling

Lisa Brookes Kift is a licensed therapist (MFT), doing individual therapy and couples counseling in downtown Larkspur, Marin County, CA, just north of San Francisco.  Some of Lisa’s areas of special interest include the following: couples communication anxiety infidelity trauma premarital… Read more »

Quick Tip to Assess the Quality of Your Relationship Right Now

Many people are clear about what a “healthy relationship” looks and feels like.  But some are not, particularly if they’ve had a history that hasn’t demonstrated this for them to see.  If you fall into the “not knowing” category, there are many routes you can… Read more »

The First Session of Individual Therapy: What to Expect

Have you ever been in counseling or therapy?  Many people come in for the first time with a host of incorrect assumptions about the process and many times, fear, especially for those who may have very negative ideas attached to what… Read more »

Inner Child Work in Individual Therapy

Individual therapy can provide a powerful medium to do the deeper work required to help people who are stuck in the past and struggling to thrive in the present.  “Inner child work” is one avenue for this where the therapist… Read more »

Getting Married? 6 Great Reasons to get Premarital Counseling

With divorce rates as high as they are, it seems that couples are facing more challenges than ever in preserving their marriage stability. In my marriage counseling practice, I’ve seen many couples at the “end of their ropes.” Some have… Read more »

Marriage Counseling: How do you Make Relationship Changes Last?

As much good work that  can be accomplished while undergoing the marriage counseling process, one bigger question is: “How can couples sustain the changes they make in counseling?” If they haven’t integrated deeper level change or have the the tools to sustain it,… Read more »

The Biggest Myth of Therapy

If you’re considering seeing a therapist, it’s important to go in as educated as possible around what you can expect – and with some awareness of what therapy will NOT do for you.  As much as psychotherapy has moved into the realm of… Read more »

8 Reasons You Might Benefit from Family of Origin Style Psychotherapy

Family of origin style psychotherapy (or “family of origin work” as it’s often referred to) is rooted in how the past negatively impacts the present – and the future. The idea is that sometimes people get stuck in old, unhelpful belief… Read more »