Divorced People Reflect Upon Lessons Learned About Marriage

In a longitudinal study starting with couples in their first year of marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, PhD continued to check in with the couples, even those who ultimately divorced (46%) eventually over the 25 years+ of the study so far. … Read more »

Rewire Your Sense of Hurt or Shame in Painful Relationship Interactions

Linda Graham, MFT offers this powerful tool to help get through and actually rewire challenging relational experiences resulting in emotional pain. There’s a teaching story in the Buddhist tradition that can guide us in repairing and rewiring any troubling experiences… Read more »

How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff

If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role.  “I have a role?” you ask.  Yes, you just might.  The baggage you’ve been carrying could… Read more »

3 Roadblocks to Forgiveness in Relationships

Dr. Richard Nicastro, PsyD, explores things that complicate forgiveness in relationships.  Sometimes the part of us that feels truly indignant remains rigid.  Can you get to a place where letting it go is possible? —– Imagine this scenario: Your spouse/partner… Read more »

Time to Rethink What Thought You Knew About Romantic Relationships and Affairs

Esther Perel has an unmistakeable presence.  The Belgian speaker, therapist, author and TedX sweetheart has been challenging us all, including therapists like myself, to rethink our paradigms around romantic relationships and infidelity. Recently at the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in DC,… Read more »

Study: Top 3 Things Couples Fight About and Other Things You Should Know

Fresh off attending the 2018 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I had the opportunity to attend a workshop with John Gottman.  Dr. Gottman is a dominant figure on the relationship research and couples therapy scene since the mid 80’s,… Read more »

Ask Lisa: Lack of Emotional Safety in Relationship

I read your article on “emotional safety” and it seems to be lacking in my recent relationship. I’d been dating a guy on and off for about a year. I’ve been trying to share this concept with him, but it… Read more »

Ask Lisa: I’m in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage

I started dating my husband when I was 19 and he was 36. I came from a broken home where there was extreme violence and alcohol abuse, so I did not want to have anything to do with alcohol. He told… Read more »

Does Your Relationship Have a Strong Negativity Bias?

A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias.  The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red.  In the worst… Read more »

The Emotional Crisis of an Affair and How to Heal

Dr. Richard Nicastro, PhD, explores the challenging work of post-affair recovery.  The  trust and hope required for healing to occur in the aftermath can be challenging to find in the transitional period for both partners. Change in a relationship is… Read more »