A Few Quick Tips on Infidelity

Infidelity is a challenging issue for couples to work through but not impossible.  There are a few really important elements to consider if you and your partner are struggling with this in your marriage – and both want to try to get through it.  Assuming the affair has ended (a must for healing from infidelity), consider the following:

Allow transparency.  The partner who cheated should be ready to answer questions about who, what, when, how and whatever else their partner needs to know.  As painful as this is, it’s far better than withholding the information to “protect” the partner.  Let them be the judge of what they can and can’t handle.

Be ready for an emotional rollercoaster.  Rage, grief, confusion and disbelief can all be part of the spectrum of emotions that come with learning of an affair.  This is normal.  Allow the feelings to come and validate them as much as possible.

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT is the creator of with emotional and relationship health articles, guides, courses and other tools for individuals and couples. She is a frequent consultant for the media having appeared in,, and others. Lisa has a private practice in Marin County, CA and offers Emotional Health and Relationship Consultations via email, phone or video conference.

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