Physical intimacy in your relationship doesn’t have to be boring – even if you’ve been married for decades! But if you find yourself getting tired of the same old routine or you’re just looking to heighten the passion you already feel for one another, read on.
Being intimate with our partners is one of the biggest ways we connect on both a physical and emotional level. The oxytocin released during sex is responsible for bonding, building trust between partners, and lowering stress.
Whether you want something sweet and romantic or X-rated and naughty, these 5 tips are sure to spice up your sex life.
1) Do Something Different
One naughty way you can spice up your sex life is to be brave and try something different, and we don’t mean get-frisky-in-the-car different. We mean get entirely out of your comfort zone. This might make you feel awkward at first, but the thrill you’ll get from trying something new and naughty will outshine any temporary discomforts.
- Say it. Dirty talk is a great option for spicing things up. Send your spouse a scandalous text telling them all the things you want to do to them when you get home or engage in some dirty-talk during sex.
- Role play. Role play dating is another excellent way to expand your sexual horizons. Meet your spouse at a fancy bar and pretend to be strangers. Try and pick each other up and practice your best pick-up-lines and build sexual anticipation. You can also role play during lovemaking to get things really exciting.
- Order a monthly delivery. Many couples enjoy signing up for monthly subscription boxes that are adult themed. These boxes often include naughty toys and games that enhance pleasure and boost your communication skills.
2) Get Experimental
Studies show that, sadly, 81.6% of women will not orgasm from penetrative sex alone, so it’s important to incorporate new and fun aspects of pleasure for her. One way that couples can do this is by bringing lubrication into the bedroom.
Lube gets a bad rap these days. Many think that only post-menopausal women need “help” down there, but statistics show that 50% of Americans find it easier to orgasm when using lubrication
Another fantastic way you can get experimental with your spouse is by playing with sex toys. Don’t let intimidation prevent you from having an amazing experience in bed. Sex toys are great for solo play or for enhancing sex with your partner.
3) Take Your Time
One fun way to bring some excitement into your sex life is to set the mood. Routine sex may be satisfying, but it’s hardly exciting. Instead of jumping right to the finish line, why not enjoy the scenery along the way?
Set the mood by lighting candles and setting some mood music.
Focus on kissing. Remember when you were a teenager and you could spend what felt like hours just kissing your crush? Revive your teen years and kiss your partner with passion. Not only is this a passionate form of foreplay, but research indicates that women are more likely to be sexually attracted to a man if he is a good kisser.
Another great way you can focus on the moment during sex is by locking eyes with your partner. Eye-contact creates a heightened sense of intimacy and self-awareness.
Having a massage night is another option for taking it slow and setting the mood with your spouse. Get some fantastic smelling oils and take turns giving each other massages. Running your hands all over your partner’s body is the perfect passion-arousing foreplay that feels great and works wonders for reducing stress.
4) Make Sex a Positive Experience
Everyone knows that communication is essential for a happy marriage, but did you know that sexually communicating is just as important? Studies show that sexual communication is positively correlated with sexual satisfaction and heightened relationship quality.
Make your sex life fun by having a “show and tell” with your partner. Show off all your most sensitive areas and tell them exactly how you like to be touched.
Not only is this great for building sexual anticipation, but it’s a great way to communicate with your spouse about how they could be pleasing you better without hurting their feelings.
As an added benefit, research shows that women who have a positive view of themselves sexually will have an easier time becoming aroused and report higher levels of passionate love.
5) Don’t Be So Serious
Physical intimacy is beneficial for your health. Not only does it reduce risks during pregnancy and reduce the risk of stroke and heart disease, but it also boosts immunoglobulin A, which is responsible for warding off the cold and flu.
SAGE Journal also brings out that when in love, people focus on the long-term, which enhances holistic thinking and creative thought. Furthermore, loving sexual encounters improve analytical thinking.
The bottom line is that sex is one of the most intimate and special things you can do with someone. Yes, there are both emotional and health benefits to getting physical with the one you love, but it’s also supposed to be fun.
There are many fun and exciting ways you can get creative with your sex life. Don’t be afraid to do something out of the ordinary, take your time with your spouse, get experimental and naughty, and don’t be so serious. After all, sex is supposed to be fun.