Removing Yourself from the Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor Triangle

Linda Graham, MFT and author of Bouncing Back:  Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, looks at the dysfunctional social dynamic of the victim, rescuer and persecutor triangle. Stephen Karpman, M.D., developed his “drama triangle” – victim, rescuer, persecutor… Read more »

I Tried to Prove Myself to the World

Indhira Rojas is the founder of Anxy, a new magazine that de-stigmatizes emotional struggles and normalizes the fears we all have.  She shares the story behind starting Anxy, when she realized her feelings of worthlessness were driving her into the ground…. Read more »

Family of Origin Work: Steps to Heal

In Family of Origin Work:  How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles, I looked at how to understand your history and how it’s impacted you.  There are many ways people cope with challenging environments and situations.  Once you have… Read more »

Scheduled Sex? Perhaps So

We can all see the logic of scheduling life maintenance tasks like medical appointments or our car’s oil change, or even social events, like lunch with a friend. But when we hear of the idea of penciling sex into our… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend wants nothing more to do with my son

I am in a relationship and have been for 18 months. We both have kids to previous partners. He has 2 girls aged 4 and 6 and I have 1 aged 7. The issue is my partner has said he can’t… Read more »

Love and Life Toolbox Re-launch Contest

11/11/13 UPDATE:  ***CONTEST IS OVER AND WINNER WAS DRAWN.*** LoveAndLifeToolbox.com offers tools for emotional and relationship health, honoring the interconnection between both.  I am a practicing psychotherapist doing individual and couples therapy north of San Francisco, in Marin County, CA.  A… Read more »