Does Your Relationship Have a Strong Negativity Bias?

A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias.  The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red.  In the worst… Read more »

The Emotional Crisis of an Affair and How to Heal

Dr. Richard Nicastro, PhD, explores the challenging work of post-affair recovery.  The  trust and hope required for healing to occur in the aftermath can be challenging to find in the transitional period for both partners. Change in a relationship is… Read more »

5 Soothing Tips for Making Up after Conflict

Not many people actually enjoy conflict. Whether it’s a fight with a friend, a rift with a co-worker, or a blowout with your significant other, conflict hurts. But the alternative is lingering grudges, endless speculation, suffering, and sometimes divorce. Conflicts… Read more »

5 Steps to Create Positive Change in Your Relationship

You love your partner.  And sometimes you make mistakes that hurt your partner.  Some of those mistakes might be from patterns similar to what was modeled to you in your family of origin and the mistakes are inadvertent.  Or sometimes you are simply… Read more »

Give Your Marriage the Gift of Reconnection Over the Holidays

Happy Holidays from LoveAndLifeToolbox.com!  It’s no secret that a happy marriage or long term relationship can be the cornerstone of your life, the foundation in which you build a family, aspire to your goals and dreams and have a port… Read more »

Improve Your Connections

How do you rate yourself as a partner?  A friend?  A parent?  Can you and those you care about benefit from improvement in the connections you have with them? Relationships are like a dance, a two-way street.  Like any system,… Read more »

Marriage Improvement: The Importance of Believing Your Partner Can Change

Marriage and Family Therapist, Jennifer Chappell Marsh, looks at a study indicating a connection between relationship happiness and belief your partner can change. If you are a married couple, you are no stranger to working to make your relationship better…. Read more »

Relationship Reconnection and the Benefit of the Doubt

You feel distance in your relationship.  You aren’t communicating well or much at all.  You’re passing ships in the night. What does it take to bridge a gap that’s developed between you and your partner?  It really depends on the… Read more »

Get out the Broom…8 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage

For many, spring is a time of renewal and recharge, a sleepy-eyed yawn and waking up from a winter slumber of sorts.  People feel the urge to clean their homes, their cars and their work environments.  Marriages can also benefit… Read more »

Wives, Is Resentment Sneaking up on Your Marriage?

Resentment in marriage can take more forms than you might realize.  Claire Hatch, LCSW looks at how resentment can creep in as boredom and how to tell the difference between this and simply being in a rut.   Feeling a… Read more »