Intimate Relationships Require More Than Good Communication

Richard Nicastro, PhD deconstructs communication in intimate relationships and the impact of relationship lethargy.  Couples can get into bad habits around the kinds of questions asked and other blocks to truly engaging your partner. Questions are a powerful communication tools we… Read more »

A Story About Breakup Etiquette

A reader submitted the following tale to the Real Stories section of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com.  She shares her creative response to an ex-boyfriend’s plan to breakup with her.  He likely thought his setup would stifle a potential emotional response from her…boy was… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My husband is a workaholic

I have been going to see a therapist for 6 months now and my husband also went with me a few times but I feel it isn’t helping me and certainly not us. My problem is two fold. I have… Read more »

Calling Out for a Circle of Love

There are no treatment options left. This is what an old high school friend of mine and her 19 year old daughter Randi heard from doctors this past April. Randi’s 3 year battle was over. Nearing the end of high… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend has a double standard

I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Recently he went out with a woman on a Friday night to a market for drinks. He told me afterwards and said he didn’t really want to tell me. He… Read more »

Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at finding “meaning over merriment” in marriage and challenges us to monitor our expectations that marriage “should” bring happiness.  Is happiness better found inwardly first? No one gets married to ramp up the suffering in their… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s boundaries with his ex-wife

My boyfriend sold his house and his new place was supposed to be ready in April. He was divorced on March 18th and planned to leave April 1st. The ex-wife and him are still living in one bedroom apartment and… Read more »

Being in a Relationship with an Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.” Have you heard the one about the confused man whose girlfriend of a… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My son has schizophrenia and my boyfriend hates him

I’m in a wonderful relationship with a man and we are talking about getting married. My adult son , 24 yrs. has schizophrenia and asked me to come live with us. He wants to get better and needs my help…. Read more »

Sexual Interest in Relationships: Navigating the Range Between “Low-to-No” and “High”

Richard Nicastro, PhD digs deeper into the important relationship dynamic of sexual interest.  While acknowledging the normalcy of an imbalance, he suggests the shortest route to a solution that works for both couples is understanding and empathy for these differences…. Read more »