Healthy Marriage: Are You Allowing Your Spouse to “Be?”

Think back to when you were married.  How did you feel about your partner?  If you’re like many couples, you were likely smitten, filled with exuberance and high on the love drugs being released in your bodies in the form of hormones and… Read more »

#TheToolbox 2015 Best of Emotional and Relationship Health

As 2015 winds down and we prepare to ring in 2016, it’s that time again to highlight the most popular articles and favorite tools offered on to help people feel the best and have the most loving relationships they can.  The… Read more »

How Do You Love?

Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the practice of loving “freely” and how to do that.  One of the keys is not being controlled by your internal negative reactions.   —– Love Freely In my early 20’s, I went through Rolfing,… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend is drifting away from me

My boyfriend is spending less and less time with me and I don’t know why. My boyfriend and are about to hit our 5 year mark, getting together when I was 16 and he was 17 and now we’re 21… Read more »

A Holiday Message to Parents Everywhere: What Your Kids Want the Most

I noticed initially this was an ad for Ikea but quickly forgot all about that as I became transfixed with this experiment involving Spanish children and their parents captured on video, writing letters to the “Three Kings” (equivalent to Santa… Read more »

Intimate Relationships Require More Than Good Communication

Richard Nicastro, PhD deconstructs communication in intimate relationships and the impact of relationship lethargy.  Couples can get into bad habits around the kinds of questions asked and other blocks to truly engaging your partner. Questions are a powerful communication tools we… Read more »

A Story About Breakup Etiquette

A reader submitted the following tale to the Real Stories section of  She shares her creative response to an ex-boyfriend’s plan to breakup with her.  He likely thought his setup would stifle a potential emotional response from her…boy was… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My husband is a workaholic

I have been going to see a therapist for 6 months now and my husband also went with me a few times but I feel it isn’t helping me and certainly not us. My problem is two fold. I have… Read more »

Calling Out for a Circle of Love

There are no treatment options left. This is what an old high school friend of mine and her 19 year old daughter Randi heard from doctors this past April. Randi’s 3 year battle was over. Nearing the end of high… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend has a double standard

I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Recently he went out with a woman on a Friday night to a market for drinks. He told me afterwards and said he didn’t really want to tell me. He… Read more »