BeingLOVEDIs: What Does it Mean to be Loved?

Love is something we experience.  Being loved and the feeling that comes with it does not have one definition or one encounter.  Describing a feeling of being loved for each individual differs from person to person. As a Marriage and… Read more »

You First in Relationships

When I say, “You first in relationships,” I’m not flashing a green light for selfishness and bratty behavior.  I’m talking about the importance of being emotionally right with yourself before you can be emotionally right in an intimate relationship.  If… Read more »

What’s your own role? See your part.

Rick Hanson, PhD looks at the importance of taking responsibility for your part in difficult situations with others. In situations or relationships with any kind of difficulty – tension, feeling hurt, conflicts, mismatches of wants . . . the usual… Read more »

Love, Safety, Healing and Recovery, Mexico

Mexico has always had always been very special to me and is one of my favorite places in the world.  I consider the Puerto Vallarta area my second home.  My heart aches for all of those in the entire region who will… Read more »

Men, Why Empathy in Relationships Matters and How you Can Step it Up

An article in ScienceDaily.com is titled, “Women Happier in Relationships Where Men Feel Their Pain.”  Those of us in the field of relationship therapy have known that empathy is a cornerstone of a healthy, connected relationship.  However, men and women actually… Read more »

The Myth of the Fairy Tale Relationship

“It just didn’t turn out to be the fairy tale I had so badly hoped for,” taken from Kim Kardashian’s “letter to her fans” regarding filing for divorce 72 days after her wedding. Relationships are not made for TV scripts;… Read more »

5 Tips to Practice Self Care in your Relationships

It’s just as important to take care of yourself while in a relationship – as tending to the relationship itself.  The same thing goes for your friendships, family and others in your inner circle.  To be the best you can… Read more »

Good Relationships are Like Making Movies

As a therapist and an ex-Hollywood Assistant Director, I have unique insight into both careers.  Throughout my twenties I ran around with youthful exuberance on many a film and television set, walkie-talkie strapped to my belt and headset perched atop my baseball cap… Read more »

Happy Marriage: An Often Overlooked Way of Connecting Couples

There are so many ways for couples to connect and nurture their marriages.  I’ve written a lot about how to create emotional safety, adult attachment, how to avoid or work through a build up of resentment, build empathy, communicate effectively… Read more »

Valentines Day: 8 Simple Ways to Make Your Partner Feel Cared For

With Valentines Day approaching, many couples are considering ways to demonstrate their love and affection for each other.  What meaning do you attach to Valentines Day?  What are your expectations?  I subscribe to the notion that it’s less about “quantity”… Read more »