Does Your Relationship Have a Strong Negativity Bias?

A common thread in my couples therapy practice with those who struggle to make change is a strong negativity bias.  The needle on the “Geiger counter” of their relationship is bouncing up and down in the red.  In the worst… Read more »

10 Characteristics of Successful Relationships

People seeking couples counseling seek change to a relationship dynamic that isn’t working in some way.   The problems can include poor communication, lack of emotional safety, resentment, trust violations and many other issues.  It might even be that the… Read more »

Give Your Marriage the Gift of Reconnection Over the Holidays

Happy Holidays from LoveAndLifeToolbox.com!  It’s no secret that a happy marriage or long term relationship can be the cornerstone of your life, the foundation in which you build a family, aspire to your goals and dreams and have a port… Read more »

Healthy Marriage: Are You Allowing Your Spouse to “Be?”

Think back to when you were married.  How did you feel about your partner?  If you’re like many couples, you were likely smitten, filled with exuberance and high on the love drugs being released in your bodies in the form of hormones and… Read more »

In Marriage, It’s Hugs Before Business

Keith Miller, LICSW shares an intimate look at his marriage to demonstrate a common occurrence for many couples; a focus on life logistics to the extent that one or both feel like a business partner.   The other day my wife seemed… Read more »

The Link Between Self-Acceptance and Emotional Intimacy

Richard Nicastro, PhD examines how a lack of self-acceptance can hurt your relationship.  He offers ways to get a better understanding of yourself, so you are better equipped to turn towards your partner. The Power of Emotional Intimacy Intimacy is all… Read more »

Learn How to Ask for What You Need in Your Relationships

Jennifer Lehr, MFT looks at the problem with “sucking it up” in relationships.  Positive connections and inner peace will more likely come from learning that it’s ok to ask for what you need. We all have emotional survival strategies that… Read more »

Get out the Broom…8 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage

For many, spring is a time of renewal and recharge, a sleepy-eyed yawn and waking up from a winter slumber of sorts.  People feel the urge to clean their homes, their cars and their work environments.  Marriages can also benefit… Read more »

Marriage as a Safe Haven

Fawn Weaver is a believer in marriage and despite the recent media focus on marriage decline and daunting divorce statistics, has made it her mission to hear from and celebrate other happy wives worldwide via Happy Wives Club. I see and know firsthand… Read more »

Disconnection to Reconnection: When Your Relationship is Truly Healing

Intimate relationships can be challenging at times and require TLC and effort to sustain them.  And the reality is, they can get off track.  If over time this happens enough, where resentment and other negative emotions build up between you,… Read more »