Boost Your Relationship Resilience by Nurturing Your Strengths

There’s a lot known about the power of resilience to help us recover from extreme adversity.  True, a great deal of stress that can be associated with this process but people generally thrive over time, making it through incredibly challenging… Read more »

The Power of Emotional Presence in Relationships

Richard Nicastro, PhD deconstructs the skills of emotional presence and challenges couples to be self reflective around how they can be more attuned to each other, especially when it really counts.  Applicable to friendships, family and other important relationships. I… Read more »

10 Ways to Betray Your Relationship (Other Than Infidelity)

Intimate relationships thrive on emotional safety.  The more each partner feels they can turn towards each other, seek shelter in each other from the storms of life, the  greater the security. When I work with couples, I look for not… Read more »

How do you talk to people? Try a softer tone.

Rick Hanson, PhD explores communication and the importance of tone awareness in your relationships.   When our kids were little, I’d come home from work wanting some peace after the daily roller-coaster and often walk into a living room full… Read more »

Warning Signs Your Relationship is in Trouble

It’s not like the movies. Relationships don’t usually break up during a big dramatic scene; they are distressed little by little over time until both partners feel a complete disconnection.  As a counselor, I meet couples when their relationship has… Read more »

The Problem with Holding Onto Hurt Feelings in Your Relationship

An ideal relationship is one where there are two lines of open communication, where both feel safe to “be” and there are no “monsters” lurking under the radar.  One type of relationship monster is one that is born out of… Read more »

Marriage: Decrease Your Arguments at the Source

Why do couples argue?  Sure, there are the issues about money, sex, parenting and other commonly discussed topics.  It’s not about stopping arguments as research has actually shown that couples who argue effectively are in better shape than those who… Read more »

Ways Couples Hide from Intimacy

Richard Nicastro, PhD explores the sneaky but effective ways couples can hide from intimacy. Emotional intimacy isn’t for the faint of heart. It takes courage and faith to open your heart to another, to let down your guard and take… Read more »

Make a Mistake in Your Relationship? Follow These Two Steps

We would not be human if we didn’t make mistakes.  In a relationship, when two people are navigating the complexities of each others feelings (as well as their own), mistakes are inevitable.  How many times in life, at work, with… Read more »

20 Relationship Tips: Give Your Relationship the Attention it Deserves

Let’s face it: there is a staggering volume of marriage/relationship help advice out there. Any Internet search on the topic will give you page after page of relationship “How to’s” and “What not to do’s.” Depending on your perspective, this… Read more »