5 Steps to Create Positive Change in Your Relationship

You love your partner.  But you’ve made mistakes.  Some of those mistakes might be born out of old conditioning and patterns learned in your family of origin and what was modeled to you.  Or perhaps you just have been insensitive…. Read more »

Wired to Connect: Why We Can’t Live Without Love and Belonging

Linda Graham MFT looks at recent research in social neuroscience from the new book, Social:  Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect.  Not being connected socially is literally bad for your health. The need to connect goes back to being… Read more »

Marriage Improvement: The Importance of Believing Your Partner Can Change

Marriage and Family Therapist, Jennifer Chappell Marsh, looks at a study indicating a connection between relationship happiness and belief your partner can change. If you are a married couple, you are no stranger to working to make your relationship better…. Read more »

Getting Married? How to Soften Your Fall from Cloud Nine

Planning a wedding?  That’s exciting news and I bet you are light on your feet and full of the “warm and fuzzies” as you imagine the big day and future with your new spouse.  You and your fiance likely are… Read more »

Trust: A Critical Component of Sexual Intimacy in Committed Relationships

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage or discourage trust in a committed relationship. When love becomes part of the relationship landscape, when the other… Read more »

How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff

If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role in this.  Ouch, “I have a role?”  Yes, you just might.  And some of it might… Read more »

Relationship Reconnection and the Benefit of the Doubt

You feel distance in your relationship.  You aren’t communicating well or much at all.  You’re passing ships in the night. What does it take to bridge a gap that’s developed between you and your partner?  It really depends on the… Read more »

Obstacles to Forgiveness and How to Overcome Them

Linda Graham, MFT examines the challenges of letting go of wrongdoing by others and barriers that can block forgiveness. She offers ways to overcome these obstacles. Laurie and Jamie sat in my office a few months ago, locked in an… Read more »

When Pain Masquerades as Crazy in Relationships

“Crazy” relationship behavior might not be what you think.  If you really care about your partner but are being put off by his/her behavior, consider the possibility there’s more there than meets the eye. I don’t like using the word… Read more »

3 Ways to Make Date Night Work For Your Relationship

We’ve all heard the experts go on and on about the importance of date night to maintaining a happy relationship. In fact, researchers at University of Rochester found that watching movies and talking about them may be as effective at… Read more »