Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at finding “meaning over merriment” in marriage and challenges us to monitor our expectations that marriage “should” bring happiness.  Is happiness better found inwardly first? No one gets married to ramp up the suffering in their… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s boundaries with his ex-wife

My boyfriend sold his house and his new place was supposed to be ready in April. He was divorced on March 18th and planned to leave April 1st. The ex-wife and him are still living in one bedroom apartment and… Read more »

Being in a Relationship with an Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.” Have you heard the one about the confused man whose girlfriend of a… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My son has schizophrenia and my boyfriend hates him

I’m in a wonderful relationship with a man and we are talking about getting married. My adult son , 24 yrs. has schizophrenia and asked me to come live with us. He wants to get better and needs my help…. Read more »

Sexual Interest in Relationships: Navigating the Range Between “Low-to-No” and “High”

Richard Nicastro, PhD digs deeper into the important relationship dynamic of sexual interest.  While acknowledging the normalcy of an imbalance, he suggests the shortest route to a solution that works for both couples is understanding and empathy for these differences…. Read more »

This Valentines Day Learn to Speak Their Love Language

Joy Nordenstrom, love coach and matchmaker, speaks to couples and singles about the importance of understanding love languages.  For Valentines Day, you can make use of this information in how you honor your sweetie (or potential love interest) in a way… Read more »

In Marriage, It’s Hugs Before Business

Keith Miller, LICSW shares an intimate look at his marriage to demonstrate a common occurrence for many couples; a focus on life logistics to the extent that one or both feel like a business partner.   The other day my wife seemed… Read more »

Improve Your Connections

How do you rate yourself as a partner?  A friend?  A parent?  Can you and those you care about benefit from improvement in the connections you have with them? Relationships are like a dance, a two-way street.  Like any system,… Read more »

2014: “The Toolbox” Best of Emotional and Relationship Health

2014 was a big year for LoveAndLifeToolbox.com after it’s redesign and relaunch at the end of 2013.  The positive feedback is much appreciated and I look forward to continuing to provide quality content and helpful tools by myself and others in the field… Read more »

The Link Between Self-Acceptance and Emotional Intimacy

Richard Nicastro, PhD examines how a lack of self-acceptance can hurt your relationship.  He offers ways to get a better understanding of yourself, so you are better equipped to turn towards your partner. The Power of Emotional Intimacy Intimacy is all… Read more »