Getting Married? How to Soften Your Fall from Cloud Nine

Planning a wedding?  That’s exciting news and I bet you are light on your feet and full of the “warm and fuzzies” as you imagine the big day and future with your new spouse.  You and your fiance likely are… Read more »

Trust: A Critical Component of Sexual Intimacy in Committed Relationships

Richard Nicastro, PhD, examines how the sexual intimacy stakes rise when you fall in love.  He highlights the conditions that either encourage or discourage trust in a committed relationship. When love becomes part of the relationship landscape, when the other… Read more »

How to Sabotage Your Relationships by Not Owning Your Stuff

If you’re wondering why your relationships often go awry or seem more difficult than they should be, perhaps it’s time to consider your role in this.  Ouch, “I have a role?”  Yes, you just might.  And some of it might… Read more »

Relationship Reconnection and the Benefit of the Doubt

You feel distance in your relationship.  You aren’t communicating well or much at all.  You’re passing ships in the night. What does it take to bridge a gap that’s developed between you and your partner?  It really depends on the… Read more »

Obstacles to Forgiveness and How to Overcome Them

Linda Graham, MFT examines the challenges of letting go of wrongdoing by others and barriers that can block forgiveness. She offers ways to overcome these obstacles. Laurie and Jamie sat in my office a few months ago, locked in an… Read more »

When Pain Masquerades as Crazy in Relationships

“Crazy” relationship behavior might not be what you think.  If you really care about your partner but are being put off by his/her behavior, consider the possibility there’s more there than meets the eye. I don’t like using the word… Read more »

3 Ways to Make Date Night Work For Your Relationship

We’ve all heard the experts go on and on about the importance of date night to maintaining a happy relationship. In fact, researchers at University of Rochester found that watching movies and talking about them may be as effective at… Read more »

Sex in Marriage and Fear of Intimacy

Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at why “intimacy is not for the faint of heart” and how a fear of intimacy can get in the way of the quality of the sexual relationship in your marriage.  He poses questions for reflection… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: I am playing second fiddle in my relationship

I’m writing to you to get your opinion on the situation I have going on with my boyfriend.  We have been dating for a little over a year. Around the time we first started dating I noticed him texting on… Read more »

Get out the Broom…8 Ways to Spring Clean Your Marriage

For many, spring is a time of renewal and recharge, a sleepy-eyed yawn and waking up from a winter slumber of sorts.  People feel the urge to clean their homes, their cars and their work environments.  Marriages can also benefit… Read more »