Reflections on Gratitude – Even for the Hard Stuff

With Thanksgiving upon us in the U.S., let’s remind ourselves of what this holiday is about.  Linda Graham, MFT, explores the use of gratitude as a buffer and offers tools to help practice gratitude even in the most difficult situations…. Read more »

My Favorite Tools to Change Your Brain

Research has shown up that because of the neuroplasticity of your brain, you have the potential to change your life by promoting happiness, trauma relief, resilience and overall peace of mind.  You no longer have to be held hostage by… Read more »

Trauma: A Broken Alarm System

Trauma is often misunderstood. If you or someone you know has experienced trauma, it’s important to understand that it’s not just something that “happened.”   People who are traumatized can’t just “get over it” because it’s not only a story of… Read more »

Feel Whole

Rick Hanson, PhD encourages us to be open to all of our experiences rather than be derailed by the parts that can get in the way. He offers a practice in how to “widen the spotlight” to feel more whole,… Read more »

How to Get Your Fear to Back Off

Amy Eden Jollymore, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer on the subject, dives into ways to get unstuck from fear.  She believes if you start with the small stuff, you will develop the courage to tackle bigger… Read more »

What’s Holding You Back? Understanding the Payoff of Having a Chronic Problem

As a therapist and coach, the symbolism of this “break free” sculpture speaks to the deepest part of my soul. It resonates with me for all the work I’ve done in my life: my own personal growth work and my… Read more »

Trauma: Why Can’t I Just Get Over This?

If you are asking yourself that question months or even years after a difficult event then it is time to take a closer look.  Terrible things can and do happen to good people and can continue to lead to strong… Read more »

Disempower Your Shame

Shame is sneaky.  It lurks in the shadows.  Shame is secretive and compelling in it’s ability to impact the way you feel about yourself at the very core.  But in your creativity and wisdom you have learned to deploy defense… Read more »

Pet the Lizard

Rick Hanson, PhD takes a playful look at how we all can benefit from “petting our inner iguana” to calm our brains – and reduce fear, anxiety and trauma.   I’ve always liked lizards. Growing up in the outskirts of… Read more »

Who Says Our Dysfunctional Parents Did the Best They Could?

You all know this phrase.  It makes me want to scream whenever I hear it, these days at least:  They did the best they could. I just asked my spouse what he thought of the term, what it really means,… Read more »