With Happiness, It’s Not “One Size Fits All”

What makes you happy doesn’t necessarily do it for the next.  In fact, it’s a mistake to try to follow a set of cookie-cutter steps to attaining the happiness pot of gold (which is less static then fluid anyway).  According… Read more »

Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem

“People who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being that those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and net worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down.” This… Read more »

What Does Emotional Health Look Like?

Many of us go to physicians to assess our physical health.  Are there issues of disease present or are all systems in the body operating smoothly?  It’s often obvious when physical health-related issues arise as there are signs.  But what… Read more »

Emotional Health: Preparing for Deeper Work

If you’ve come to realize that your are somehow blocked in your present as a result of experiences in the past – and you are ready to do some work around this – that’s great!  If it’s with a therapist,… Read more »

Tools for Resilience: Cultivating Self Compassion

Linda Graham, MFT explores the power of self compassion to increase resilience.   There are tools and techniques of “self-directed neuroplasticity” that will help you harness the capacities of your brain to rewire itself for greater resilience, lifelong – and… Read more »

Being in the Moment and Why it Matters

Mindfulness.  Presence.  Being in the moment. All three of the above essentially mean the same thing – and practicing them can bring you more emotional and relationship health.  It’s a practice, a reconditioning and training of your mind that can be done… Read more »

Tools for Resilience: “Hand on the Heart” for Calm

Linda Graham, MFT looks at oxytocin’s ability to calm the mind/body and increase resilience.  She offers an exercise to do that. Oxytocin is the neurotransmitter of the “calm and connect” response and is the brain’s direct and immediate antidote to… Read more »

How are You? Really.

I’m not talking about the kind of “how are you” many of us ask acquaintances that often gets the “fine” response.  Whether it’s true or not, many of us have gotten used to relying on “how are you” as a… Read more »

Reflections on The How of Happiness

More and more research shows that the pursuit – or creation – of happiness is not a selfish endeavor at all. Folks who deliberately cultivate happiness – in flavors of joy, contentment, love, pride, awe, – are more creative and… Read more »

How Positive Emotions Can Benefit You Starting Now

Linda Graham, MFT, breaks down of the research-backed benefits of positive emotions; what they are and how they can help you. Our response to any emotion can become a gateway to resilient action. Anger fuels our fight against injustice and… Read more »