What’s Holding You Back? Understanding the Payoff of Having a Chronic Problem

As a therapist and coach, the symbolism of this “break free” sculpture speaks to the deepest part of my soul. It resonates with me for all the work I’ve done in my life: my own personal growth work and my… Read more »

Trauma: Why Can’t I Just Get Over This?

If you are asking yourself that question months or even years after a difficult event then it is time to take a closer look.  Terrible things can and do happen to good people and can continue to lead to strong… Read more »

3 Ways You Might be Sabotaging Your Growth

If you are like most people, you’d prefer happiness over unhappiness.  You probably know and accept that life cannot always dish out platefuls of sweet cherry pie with whipped cream or provide a sunlit dappled green field filled with daisies… Read more »

Resilience and the 6 C’s of Coping

Everyone experiences adversity and people have different abilities to recover from difficult situations.  This is called resilience and the good news is, it can be developed.  In the book, Bouncing Back:  The Neuroscience of Resilience and Well-Being, Linda Graham, MFT… Read more »

Disempower Your Shame

Shame is sneaky.  It lurks in the shadows.  Shame is secretive and compelling in it’s ability to impact the way you feel about yourself at the very core.  But in your creativity and wisdom you have learned to deploy defense… Read more »

Happiness and Life Meaning: Both Important to Well-Being

Linda Graham, MFT looks at the power of life meaning, perhaps even over happiness.  She offers an exercise in which to invite both to foster resilience and well-being.  Research was recently published in the Journal of Positive Psychology that discovered… Read more »

Rest in Center

Rick Hanson, PhD takes a look at the experience of being “all over the place” and how to get centered.  He encourages you to seek your wisdom, especially in the face of fear, anxiety and self doubt. Gravity and entropy are powerful processes… Read more »

I’m a Daily Struggling Someone, Not a Recovering Anybody

The discussion of male sexual abuse is slowly moving out of the shadows.  The following piece is by a male victim of sexual abuse by both of his parents and others beginning early in his life.  He is writing a… Read more »

What Are You Feeding Your Mind?

Craig Harper, a leading coach in Australia with a direct, wry and authentic writing style, compares the choices people make in their thinking and behaviors to the choices they make in what they put into their bodies. Like your body,… Read more »

New Year’s Resolutions for a Therapist

Many believe that therapists must get everything right in their lives.  They should have great relationships and are happy most of the time.  If we make our living guiding others towards emotional and relationship health fulfillment, surely we have it… Read more »