Reflections on Gratitude – Even for the Hard Stuff

With Thanksgiving upon us in the U.S., let’s remind ourselves of what this holiday is about.  Linda Graham, MFT, explores the use of gratitude as a buffer and offers tools to help practice gratitude even in the most difficult situations…. Read more »

The Light in Your Dark Side: How Negative Emotions Serve You

Linda Graham, MFT reflects on the book, The Upside of Your Dark Side by Todd Kashan, Phd, offering a corrective to the last 20 years of the positive psychology movement which itself was meant to be a corrective to psychology’s focus on… Read more »

My Favorite Tools to Change Your Brain

Research has shown up that because of the neuroplasticity of your brain, you have the potential to change your life by promoting happiness, trauma relief, resilience and overall peace of mind.  You no longer have to be held hostage by… Read more »

Just Breathe: Kids Talk About Difficult Emotions and Using the Breath to Relieve Stress

Much is known about the power of the breath to reduce stress.  Slow, deep breathing triggers the relaxation response that changes the physical and emotional responses to stress.  It decreases your heart rate, blood pressure and muscle tension.  Many throughout the… Read more »

Feel Whole

Rick Hanson, PhD encourages us to be open to all of our experiences rather than be derailed by the parts that can get in the way. He offers a practice in how to “widen the spotlight” to feel more whole,… Read more »

What’s Holding You Back? Understanding the Payoff of Having a Chronic Problem

As a therapist and coach, the symbolism of this “break free” sculpture speaks to the deepest part of my soul. It resonates with me for all the work I’ve done in my life: my own personal growth work and my… Read more »

Disempower Your Shame

Shame is sneaky.  It lurks in the shadows.  Shame is secretive and compelling in it’s ability to impact the way you feel about yourself at the very core.  But in your creativity and wisdom you have learned to deploy defense… Read more »

Emotional Victimhood: Viewing Life Through a Lens of Injustice

Jennifer Lehr, MFT examines “emotional victimhood” as a reflection of how we see ourselves, the pain and consequences associated and the power we have to change. Sue and her husband Dave were talking in the morning before leaving for work…. Read more »

Anger: A Prelude to Courage

Linda Graham, MFT, examines the neuroscience of anger and though it is a necessary, hard-wired survival skill, the key is to recognize healthy vs. unhealthy anger.  It’s important to understand that anger is a hardwired-in, body-based survival response.  We can… Read more »

5 Ways to Rewire Your Brain for Happiness and Peace of Mind

We all seek happiness.  We all want to feel calm, grounded and avoid being hijacked by our own emotional reactivity.  Thankfully, the recent studies in neuroscience are demonstrating how to do this.  If you find yourself easily stressed, worried and fearful,… Read more »