Marriage / Relationships

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend is spiraling out of control!

I’m 19 years old and have been dating this guy for 18 months now. We were pretty close friends for about 4 years before we started dating. We met at school and starting dating in our final year of schooling…. Read more »

It’s True. Happiness is Emotional and Relationship Health.

As an individual and couples therapist, writer, student of the dynamics of people and creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com, I’ve noticed a few things.  One of the things that I’ve sought to understand and guide people towards is the state of happiness…. Read more »

Deconstructing Bickering in Relationships

Richard Nicastro, PhD examines why couples fight and proposes that bickering isn’t always the way it seems.  Might bickering in relationships sometimes be…fun? “You missed the exit.” “Did not.” “Did too.” “Do you want to drive?” “That’s not fair. You know… Read more »

Emotional Health

Reflections on Gratitude – Even for the Hard Stuff

With Thanksgiving upon us in the U.S., let’s remind ourselves of what this holiday is about.  Linda Graham, MFT, explores the use of gratitude as a buffer and offers tools to help practice gratitude even in the most difficult situations…. Read more »

Mitigate the Stress Response with a Hand on Your Heart

Linda Graham, MFT and author of Bouncing Back:  Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being, shares a highly effective stress relieving exercise that encourages the release of oxytocin, the brain’s antidote to the stress hormone, cortisol. Barbara Fredrickson, a pioneering… Read more »

Learning to Cope, Living with Hope….Life with BPD

This is a follow up to Borderline Personality Disorder: A Survivor’s Story, written by Amy Allison for LoveAndLifeToolbox.com in 2009.   Amy shares how things been since that time; challenges, triumphs and her ongoing personal work. I strongly encourage you to… Read more »

Therapy

What is Family of Origin Work?

Therapists probably have slightly different interpretations of what family of origin work and the process is. Here is my definition: “Family of origin work is getting unstuck emotionally and/or in your relationships in the present, by healing the family or… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: Steps to Heal

In Family of Origin Work:  How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles, I looked at how to understand your history and how it’s impacted you.  There are many ways people cope with challenging environments and situations.  Once you have… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles

In Family of Origin Work:  Is it Time to Start Digging?, I looked at possible reasons for looking more closely at what might be an unhealthy root system underneath you.  Sometimes our earlier experiences create obstacles to emotional and relationship… Read more »

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