Marriage / Relationships

Ask the Therapist:  Marriage / Relationship Advice

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend has a double standard

I am in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. Recently he went out with a woman on a Friday night to a market for drinks. He told me afterwards and said he didn’t really want to tell me. He… Read more »

Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at finding “meaning over merriment” in marriage and challenges us to monitor our expectations that marriage “should” bring happiness.  Is happiness better found inwardly first? No one gets married to ramp up the suffering in their… Read more »

Ask the Therapist:  Marriage / Relationship Advice

Ask the Therapist: I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s boundaries with his ex-wife

My boyfriend sold his house and his new place was supposed to be ready in April. He was divorced on March 18th and planned to leave April 1st. The ex-wife and him are still living in one bedroom apartment and… Read more »

Emotional Health

Your One Precious Life

Your One Precious Life

I recently heard a poem that stopped me in my tracks with it’s visceral beauty and lesson in the power of mindfulness, or living in the moment. We all can learn to pay better attention as not to miss the magical… Read more »

Kindness is a Super-Power

Kindness is a Super-Power

Linda Graham, MFT believes that small acts of kindness can truly change the world.  She explores the “super-powers of kindness” and ways to pass it on. When my friend Edith’s grandson Nick was 6 years old, she asked him one day,… Read more »

The Light in Your Dark Side

The Light in Your Dark Side: How Negative Emotions Serve You

Linda Graham, MFT reflects on the book, The Upside of Your Dark Side by Todd Kashan, Phd, offering a corrective to the last 20 years of the positive psychology movement which itself was meant to be a corrective to psychology’s focus on… Read more »

Therapy

This Therapist's Life

This Therapist’s Life: Out of the Office with Esther Boykin

“This Therapist’s Life” is an interview series intended to demystify therapists to the public while giving permission to therapists to speak from the heart about the joys and challenges of what we do, in and out of the office. Introducing, Esther Boykin…. Read more »

This Therapist's Life

This Therapist’s Life: Out of the Office with Lisa Brookes Kift

I am a therapist and this is the first in my series about others like me.  My name is Lisa Brookes Kift and I was one of the first therapists online, part of an earlier group who began to challenge… Read more »

If I Was Your Therapist

If I Was Your Therapist

If I was your therapist I’d want you to know… You’re not broken…It’s your experiences that have led to faulty beliefs that might be telling you that. I care about what happens to you…My work with you is not simply about a… Read more »

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