Marriage / Relationships

Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Should Marriage Make You Happy or is Happiness an Inside Job?

Richard Nicastro, PhD looks at finding “meaning over merriment” in marriage and challenges us to monitor our expectations that marriage “should” bring happiness.  Is happiness better found inwardly first? No one gets married to ramp up the suffering in their… Read more »

Ask the Therapist:  Marriage / Relationship Advice

Ask the Therapist: I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s boundaries with his ex-wife

My boyfriend sold his house and his new place was supposed to be ready in April. He was divorced on March 18th and planned to leave April 1st. The ex-wife and him are still living in one bedroom apartment and… Read more »

Loving and Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Being in a Relationship with an Adult Child of an Alcoholic

Amy Eden, an adult child of alcoholics and long time writer and teacher on the subject, offers insight into navigating the waters of being in love with an “ACA.” Have you heard the one about the confused man whose girlfriend of a… Read more »

Emotional Health

The Light in Your Dark Side

The Light in Your Dark Side: How Negative Emotions Serve You

Linda Graham, MFT reflects on the book, The Upside of Your Dark Side by Todd Kashan, Phd, offering a corrective to the last 20 years of the positive psychology movement which itself was meant to be a corrective to psychology’s focus on… Read more »

Are you hard on  yourself?

Are You Hard on Yourself?

Rick Hanson, PhD and author of Hardwiring Happiness, looks at the benefit of practicing forgiveness if you have a tendency to be your own worst critic.  He shares his thoughts about how to allow your “inner protector” to help you find… Read more »

Change Your Brain to Change Your Life

My Favorite Tools to Change Your Brain

Research has shown up that because of the neuroplasticity of your brain, you have the potential to change your life by promoting happiness, trauma relief, resilience and overall peace of mind.  You no longer have to be held hostage by… Read more »

Therapy

This Therapist's Life

This Therapist’s Life: Out of the Office with Lisa Brookes Kift

I am a therapist and this is the first in my series about others like me.  My name is Lisa Brookes Kift and I was one of the first therapists online, part of an earlier group who began to challenge… Read more »

If I Was Your Therapist

If I Was Your Therapist

If I was your therapist I’d want you to know… You’re not broken…It’s your experiences that have led to faulty beliefs that might be telling you that. I care about what happens to you…My work with you is not simply about a… Read more »

How to Make Couples Therapy Work for You

How to Make Couples Therapy Work for You

You are your partner are struggling.  Perhaps your disconnection is significant or maybe you feel committed to the relationship but see red flags waving that need addressing.  For couples who have been unsuccessful at implementing the kind of change they… Read more »

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