Marriage / Relationships

5 Steps to Create Positive Change in Your Relationship

You love your partner.  And sometimes you make mistakes that hurt your partner.  Some of those mistakes might be from patterns similar to what was modeled to you in your family of origin and the mistakes are inadvertent.  Or sometimes you are simply… Read more »

Ask the Therapist: My boyfriend has alcohol and mental health issues

My boyfriend and I are together for 2 years . Since we moved together 15 months ago we started to argue and it was over drinking . He gets aggressive and fights with random people, it has happened around 7… Read more »

The Under the Radar Relationship Killer

Researchers are doing a great job raising awareness about harmful things couples say and do in a relationship. For example, we now know from the work of Dr. John Gottman that there are four communication patterns which predict whether a… Read more »

Emotional Health

Bite-Sized Meditations for the Busy Human Being

The third in a series by Linda Graham, MFT, based on Healthy Brain, Happy Life by Dr. Wendy Suzuki, a neuroscientist at NYU. Dr. Suzuki acknowledges her own struggles, as so many of us have, with sticking to a formal meditation practice…. Read more »

Be Your Own Therapist: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself

Something is off.  Happiness and peace are eluding you.  Perhaps your relationships continue to self destruct or you simply feel stuck. Most of us can relate to the experience of being off track.  It could be an unexplainable blip or there is… Read more »

What Can You Do When You’re Shaken?

Rick Hanson, PhD, looks at the need we all have to find a place to stand firmly; whether it be physically, psychologically or spiritually.  He offers ways to find stability when you feel shaken or out of control.  I’ve been to… Read more »

Therapy

10 Characteristics of Successful Relationships

People seeking couples counseling seek change to a relationship dynamic that isn’t working in some way.   The problems can include poor communication, lack of emotional safety, resentment, trust violations and many other issues.  It might even be that the… Read more »

What is Family of Origin Work?

Therapists probably have slightly different interpretations of what family of origin work and the process is. Here is my definition: “Family of origin work is getting unstuck emotionally and/or in your relationships in the present, by healing the family or… Read more »

Family of Origin Work: Steps to Heal

In Family of Origin Work:  How to Untangle and Tend to Your Obstacles, I looked at how to understand your history and how it’s impacted you.  There are many ways people cope with challenging environments and situations.  Once you have… Read more »

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